The moment is finally here, your significant other has proposed, and you said YES! This is the most amazing and magical time! It’s never how you predicted growing up; it’s better than that because now your DREAMS are becoming a REALITY! The feeling of bliss and pure shock all wrapped up in one. Once that feeling starts to settle, you realize, it’s time to start planning a wedding. I always thought that I would have it all figured out, I watched all the wedding channels and read all the books- but when it’s your special day all of that planning in your head gets lost and forgotten. As exciting as this moment it, it can also be very stressful. That’s why I’m breaking down- What I wish I knew about Wedding Planning.
Let me start this by saying, my wedding was a magical day, and I couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful ceremony and reception. But, looking back I can now see where I could have made things much easier for myself and got the same results.
START BIG, then scale BACK
Shakira, what in the hell do you mean by that? I’m so glad you asked the girl! The biggest mistake that a lot of brides make is they start with smaller ideas that start to grow into huge ideas by the time the wedding rolls around. When those ideas get bigger and bigger, you sometimes loose either the point or the concept that you were going for in the first place. This leaves you hitting your budget way faster than planned. If you start with your grand idea for your wedding and start to think how you can get the same feeling and experience for less, you will find that it most definitely can be done.
2. Pay for the most important things to you FIRST
When planning your big day, you need to decide what’s the most important aspect for you and your partner to have. Once you’ve decided and located the person and company, pay for it. You will get so much weight lifted off your shoulders knowing that the photographer or florist is paid for and will be there on your big day. When you worry about spending your money on all the little things, they will add up, and as you get closer to your day, you realize that whats important to you hasn’t been handled yet.
3. PLAN with a small group of People
I’m so happy that I did this when planning your wedding, everyone doesn’t need to be involved. Plan with only a few close people, your mom, and sister or your mom and soon to be mother in law. When your planning with a crowd, this can end up being a very stressful situation. Everyone will start to project their feelings and opinions on you, leaving you super stressed. Let it be a surprise for everyone; they don’t all need to be involved.
4. SPEND TIME with your partner
Don’t forget about your spouse! Sometimes during the planning of a wedding, your mind is racing 100 miles per hour, and everyone is waiting for you to make decisions and appointments. While this is happening, most brides end up putting their soon to be husband on the back burner. Not on purpose, but it happens. The relationship starts to fall on the back burner, and it’s so easy for your partner to feel left out. Make sure to spend quality time, that’s whose important and that’s who you’re marrying. So don’t forget about the magic, that’s the two of you.
5. Enjoy the DAY
OMG, this is the most important thing! The best advice that I ever received was to enjoy the day. Take it all in girl; this is the day that you’ve been working so hard for, this is the day that you imagined in 6th grade. Go through this day as slow as possible, enjoy your bridesmaids, have the right time reminiscing on moments as friends. While walking down the aisle, look at all of the beauty! During the reception say Hi to as many people as you can, they came to spend this time with you and celebrate you. But if you can, you and your new husband or wife, should take a step back together-alone, and take it all in. Look at everyone having the time of their life, laugh at the road to get here. Because in the quickest blink it’ll all be over.
I hope this helps all of my beautiful fiancées out there. I had the most magical time at my wedding, and I wish the same for you.
Happy Wedding Day!!